Why You Are Attracted to Toxic Partners
A Psychological and Astrological Healing Guide
By Solaris the Hii Priestess
This guide is for the person who keeps asking themselves why love feels intense, consuming, or painful even when they know better.
It is not a guide about bad choices or poor judgment.
It is a guide about conditioning.
Inside these pages, you will learn that attraction is not random and it is not a flaw. It is a nervous system memory shaped by early emotional environments, ancestral patterns, and survival responses learned long before adulthood. What feels magnetic is often what once felt familiar.
Using astrology, psychology, and somatic awareness, this guide helps you understand why you are drawn to emotionally unavailable, controlling, or destabilizing partners and how to interrupt those patterns without shame or self blame.
This guide explores how desire is conditioned through Venus, how emotional safety is stored in the Moon, how power and control show up in intimate bonds, and why trauma bonding can feel like love. It also offers grounded explanations of nervous system regulation so you can begin choosing relationships that feel safe, steady, and supportive rather than chaotic.
Included with this guide is a companion workbook designed to help you integrate what you are learning through reflection and self inquiry. The prompts are intentional and gentle, offering space for honesty without judgment and insight without overwhelm.
This is not surface level advice.
This is not quick healing language.
This is a slow and honest guide meant to be returned to as your awareness deepens.
This guide is for you if
• You are tired of repeating the same relationship patterns
• You confuse intensity with intimacy
• You feel anxious in calm relationships
• You want to understand your attraction without blaming yourself
• You are ready to choose love that supports your nervous system
This guide is not for you if
• You want instant fixes
• You are looking to bypass emotional work
• You are not ready to be honest with yourself
This guide does not tell you who to love.
It teaches you how to listen to your body, understand your patterns, and choose differently.
Awareness is the doorway.
Choice is the path.
A Psychological and Astrological Healing Guide
By Solaris the Hii Priestess
This guide is for the person who keeps asking themselves why love feels intense, consuming, or painful even when they know better.
It is not a guide about bad choices or poor judgment.
It is a guide about conditioning.
Inside these pages, you will learn that attraction is not random and it is not a flaw. It is a nervous system memory shaped by early emotional environments, ancestral patterns, and survival responses learned long before adulthood. What feels magnetic is often what once felt familiar.
Using astrology, psychology, and somatic awareness, this guide helps you understand why you are drawn to emotionally unavailable, controlling, or destabilizing partners and how to interrupt those patterns without shame or self blame.
This guide explores how desire is conditioned through Venus, how emotional safety is stored in the Moon, how power and control show up in intimate bonds, and why trauma bonding can feel like love. It also offers grounded explanations of nervous system regulation so you can begin choosing relationships that feel safe, steady, and supportive rather than chaotic.
Included with this guide is a companion workbook designed to help you integrate what you are learning through reflection and self inquiry. The prompts are intentional and gentle, offering space for honesty without judgment and insight without overwhelm.
This is not surface level advice.
This is not quick healing language.
This is a slow and honest guide meant to be returned to as your awareness deepens.
This guide is for you if
• You are tired of repeating the same relationship patterns
• You confuse intensity with intimacy
• You feel anxious in calm relationships
• You want to understand your attraction without blaming yourself
• You are ready to choose love that supports your nervous system
This guide is not for you if
• You want instant fixes
• You are looking to bypass emotional work
• You are not ready to be honest with yourself
This guide does not tell you who to love.
It teaches you how to listen to your body, understand your patterns, and choose differently.
Awareness is the doorway.
Choice is the path.